The girlfriend you think you are not !

              Have you watched  Himesh's Damadam movie?? no? Okay wrong question! Have you watched the promo of Damadam? Sure you must have!

              I watched the promo with S when we had gone for a movie.. Frankly I don't know how the movie is, but in the promo you have this Himesh's girlfriend who is all the time hovering over him and nagging. If you don't know what I m talking about watch THIS. I promise it won't kill you. 

              Okay so while we were watching the promo, S was like "Look she's acting like you" and I laughed it off. I can be very doubtful when I m angry and I can be real possessive too. But I definitely won't like to think of myself to be like the girlfriend mentioned above. 

              While we were in the train he got an SMS and I couldn't help taking a peek at it. It started with "Dear S (ofcourse his real name!) and I asked him to show me :P It turned out to be the travel company confirming his ticket. I looked at him and said, "Nahi wo dear likha tha isliye" and gave a sheepish grin. He looked heavenward!  See what I m talking, we all change in love..

                

So you think you are not the girlfriend who

• Calls her guy and wants to know where he has been and what he is doing.
• Gets curious to read the texts he receives.
• Worries why he hasn't replied to your text as soon as you get the delivery report.
• Keeps a tab on his online activity.
• Gets jealous when he talks to another girl.
• Doesn't like if he thinks someone other than  you is pretty.
• Sulks when he thinks shes being a control freak or irritating.
• Wants to be with him 24X7. Okay not quite literally!
• Never likes to be proved wrong.
• Wants the guy to apologize first for raising his voice and then she will apologize for the wrong she did.
• Wants her guy to comfort her always when she is upset.
• Wants her guy to care for her the way she cares for him..

But somehow we all end up becoming the same when we fall in love.. It has got something to do with the fact that no matter how focused we are, we do make the love of our life the center of our universe. He becomes the reason why we want to live. He becomes that hope when we are upset. 

• We lie to our parents for him.
• We ditch our girls to  be with him.
• We adjust our schedule as per his schedule.
• His call is more important to us than talking to someone else.
• We dream of life with him .
• We take the effort to look pretty for his eyes only.
• We want to be there to care for him.

It has got to do with the way we innately are. Guys just make us a part of their lives and we make guys our life.. They want things to go on like they were before and we make magnificent changes in the life we had. Because we all become the same when we fall in love, the girls who are not in love appeal to them. Ofcourse we were one when we weren't in love. Isn't that why they fall in love with us? 

As I m writing this, S is online and I ask him "Am I like Purba in Damadam?" 

He says, "No.. somewhat.."

"How much percent?"

"50%" 

Yea, from this very blog you can make out that S is not just the center of my universe, but the universe for me..  Naturally I m doing the very things I don't want to.. But 50% is not bad na? Hmmm there's still room for improvement..

Check out this video from Pyaar Ka Panchnama.. S ka favorite video.. :D :D I forwarded him this sometime back and I got the response, "Itna sab jaanti ho, toh aisa karti kyun ho?"

         

 Its exam time and yes S has made his personal duty to call and make me feel guilty for wasting time by saying, "I would have loved to hear that you are studying" :P :P Sweet he is.. Facebook is not happening till exams get done.. He has made sure of that :P 

How to punish your boyfriend..

  As promised I m back with the post I mentioned last time..

 If the P.S of my last post made you think that this was going to be a chick revolution post like the ones which tell you how to get back at your love for the wrong, then sorry to disappoint.. 

Any lover's tiff  goes through 3 phases:

The actual fight:  This is the first and the least dwelled upon phase. It is the actual reason the fight starts. Like in my case its the inability to reach S when I want to.. sigh! I won't go deeper into it :P See I told you its least time consuming.

The denial : This is when egos come into picture. The one who has hurt is blind to his fault just because the one who got hurt said something unacceptable. This unfortunately is the cause of all problems in a relation and last for anything from a few minutes to several days.

Sorry : Finally when there is enough feeding of ego and love creeps in.. But all that has happened makes the sorry seem small. It doesn't satisfy you after so much tears and anger you spent.. But neither can you ignore the sorry.. Like they say its easy to get angry when the apology is not given, but if someone says sorry then how long can you stay angry? Specially if its your love? 

So this is what the post is about.. How do you punish someone you love? You cannot afford to hurt them because that hurts you too and you only end up regretting it. So why not punish them with something that is going to make you feel happy? Read on to what the punishments could be..

When he has not yet said sorry..

Give him missed calls but don't receive his calls when he calls back.. 

Give one word replies when he asks something..

Wear polo neck tops (I know you got me) *winks*

When he has said sorry:

'A sorry is not enough!!" say it with a pout.. 

- Ask him to write you a love letter.. If you have read my last post then you know the effect it has.. If not then read it Here

- Ask him to sing for you no matter how bad he sings.. The more fataak the number the more fun! You won't stop laughing.. I find it cute when S sings for me.. 

- Ask him to treat you to your favorite dinner.. Ah applies only if you are a foodie.. Else you can ask him to treat you to the beauty parlor! 

- Ask him to take a day off and spend it with you.. Crazy but fun...

- Ask him to make you a card..What's a punishment if it doesn't involve some hardwork.?

- IF your guy is a dabbang dancer or actor then nothing as amusing as watching him do it for you.. Full entertainment !! 

S is one hell of an actor :P  There were times when I used to simply say, "Abhi joke bolo" when I was upset .. Life is perpetual drama with him..

So this was my little list.. Try it, you never know what your guy might surprise you with.. You get pleasure and you give it back, so its win-win situation for both.. If your guy atleast tries then hold him tight.. He's worth it..  

                                                            they are rare..

   

P.S: Once I m done with my exams I m following all you amazing readers religiously! I already follow some of you but I have been rather lazy with commenting.. You all are gifted writers and beautiful people.. Thank for the lovely comments you shower on me.. It really makes my day..                                                      

Disappointments, fights and finally a love letter !

              We missed the Monday red! Inevitably the public holiday had to come on Monday.. I had been working like crazy cleaning up the house after it got painted. Choosing the color, thinking up combination can be fun but not inhaling the smell of primer and definitely not cleaning up the mess thereafter. Overworked, over harassed as I was even the much awaited Monday turned out to be hectic. Disappointment!!!!! 

              Added to it a lot of other things happened which made me super upset. I called up S to talk and he was sleeping away to glory which infuriated me even more. Missed call pe missed call was what I did and he switched off! Load the guns and get ready for the fight! 

              The next day was a disaster. I sooo hate fighting specially the energy draining ones! Adding insult to injury S decided to be busy and not fight back even though I was shouting my guts out. So that left poor little me whiling away sulking and waiting for a chance to bite. Quite literally !!

              Finally he called back with a calm tone (Jeez I tell you how thanda that is to my boiling blood). I went on complaining about how horrible he was and how he should be with the other girl (imagined by me and supported by him and then actually thought to be true by me) and not talking to me. Somewhere in between the whole scene he found something funny and started laughing. *Change of topic* and I suddenly lost what I was fighting about and he started pulling my leg and that pretty much ended it because no matter what I did I couldn't get that gussa back and grinned like an idiot. 

                      

    

This was what happened with exact same sentence but over the phone :) :) 

So the imaginary girl was forgotten after he promised that he was just playing along with my imaginations and there was no one other than me.

Then while I was home browsing, suddenly a tubelight lit in my mind, "What about the phone switching thing that initially annoyed me? Uski bharpayi kaun karega?" 

So I went over to my mail and emailed him with the first thing that came into my mind, "I WANT A LOVE LETTER ELSE I M NOT FORGETTING THIS FIGHT!!" 

     Seriously I didn't  have a love letter except the one someone wrote in school and on confrontation told that "mazak tha" :P :P 

     I remember reading those "personal letters" in those "art of writing letter" book that all of us refer for English letter writing during school and think of writing and receiving. Alas ! Our times are different and love is a mere text away (read 160 characters).

      

        To be true, I half expected S won't write the letter and simply let it pass. Imagine my joy when I saw the letter duly written and lying in my inbox!! Now I know of people who write love letters with Copy Paste from google and some even get it written from others ( I have written one for a friend :P :P khi khi khi) 

        It was the most original, true and hilarious letter ever read by me :D :D To top it all, it was written in my mother tongue ( alright OUR mother tongue) Tulu .. 

        I wouldn't translate the letter because that would steal the charm of it ( super cute :D :D ). I couldn't help smiling and laughing at the cuteness and funniness of it. "A letter can surely end a fight" 

        If you think the story ended here then WAIT.. Later at night while we were skyping he brought out the fact that I used a bad word for him during the fight. Yes anger can make you do such things. :( 

        Then started the drama. He acted as me and I acted as him. While I was trying to persuade him to forget the thing, he playfully started acting like me. Right from the bloated face, to pulling of hair in frustration (yes I do that, now stop gaping), to asking for silly things. Everything acted to the perfect T. 

        Finally I could bring back peace with some negotiations (Don't ask!). Its not for nothing that I say guys are easy to please.. :) 

        

        For you S, I loved your line "You are the rasgulla of my life.. I can't imagine my life without you". My filmy sweetheart I can't stop reading that letter! I have it byheart now!!

P.S: Coming soon "How to punish your boyfriend"

When mondays became red!!

             Never ever have I waited for mondays so much as these last few weeks! Monday blues suddenly became Monday red in our love story 

             I m super happy !!

             I got a good diwali vacation till 14th of November which is like awesome!! 

             Even though me and  S do talk on phone everyday, the skyping time is highly restricted due to our super busy schedules! Sundays were the only days we could chat at leisure but then the whole country (including my family) has holiday on Sunday.. The problem? Yes we can't talk on skype! Only seeing only seeing! (Annoying song na by the way! Himesh I tell you!). Also being Sunday I have to be super alert to not draw attention to myself.. So a large part of sunday (when S has holiday) goes waste.. 

            But then dhan te dan! He is working on Sunday and taking leave on Monday :) :) The reason for this weird pattern is powercuts in his industrial unit on Monday and ever since I got this new I m doing the duck dance (PeeVee this one I learnt from you )

            How I love monday now!! Can't just wait for sunday to get over :D :D 

            

Even though I m miles away from S (bless that person who started skype and yahoo video calling) I can see him all day if I wish to! 

It feels like we got teleported to each other's house! (How I wish) .. So close that I could almost grab him into a warm cuddle (the things that the stupid heart desires)

So Mondays we have been practically living on Skype! Talking endlessly and talking nonsense (mostly me) and S laughing, giggling and looking hottt :D :D 

                      

 Why do I feel you will say I remembered you after I ate the food?

41..I love the way you make those lame jokes on my love for food! Even if I say "hawa khaane ja rahi hu", you find it enough to make fun of me and say "Ha idhar bhi khaane ki baat!"

42..I love the fun we have while scribbling on yahoo!

 haha this is a yahoo scribble page!!

43..I love the 'x' and the 'o' we play and I love to do the cheating :) 

 44..I love it when we laugh on some random snap on facebook or some post I send you a link of :) 

45..I love it when you give me that cute adorable look which makes me fall in love with you again and again..

46..I love it when we play dumb cherads ( ok don't give me such looks, I accept we tried it only once and I DID the acting) and I don't know what you found so sexy to say out "MURDER !! MURDER!!"

47..I love it when you make that annoying sound with the speaker when I m looking at other things (like my facebook page) !! 

48..Love the time we have spent from me shying to sing for you "Bahut pyaar karte hai tumko sanam" and you said "Itni sweet ho!" and now when I shamelessly sing "Oolalalaoolala tu hai meri fantasy" and you say "Bas! ek toh sardi hui hai tumhe uspe ye torture!"

49..Love the sweetness that you bring into my life

My shweetoo shweet gulab jamun, love you more than all the sweets that I like !

50....And I love it when you call me rasgulla :D :D 

don't they look delicious together?? Ah so do we !

So this diwali vacation has become really special because of our monday reds :) 

You know what? I will always be with you S even if you snore ! 

Wooing your love in Diwali!

               Its the biggg festival of the year- Diwali!! Wish you all a very happy Diwali!

So the entire week has been busy- shopping, cooking, cleaning and now you look like a pan cake and all dolled up for the festival, yea? 

Well you could still sneak a little bit of time and make it special for love ;)

1.. Try making his favorite sweets.. And if he happens to be fussy over food ( like S !! :P) , then simply get creative with chocolates! Yes they are lifesavers, antidepressants and aphrodites! Do I say more??

2..Give him a nice long massage on Narakchaturdashi ( hehe sounds funny but that is the day you are supposed to be having a good oil massage and a long bath with utna- a kind of herbal powder used for the abhyanga snan or the purifying bath)

3. So you have lit up the entire house and neighborhood with those colorful, floating diyas then why spare the bedroom? ;)

Save up a few and light your bedroom with those aromatherapy candles for your rendezvous with love

4. You have shopped, shopped and shopped till you dropped.. So play a little dressing up for him.. Do some wooing with your sexxy dress :) 

      

Dress for His eyes only :)

5. Make a handmade gift for him.. A card with happy pictures of you two could be a win win one! 

5.. Play games with him.. No not the mind games darling..  If it is the Diwali time card games, then make him your partner and give naughty hints to him all the way ;) and it is only you two playing then make up conditions to be fulfilled for the one who loses! IT should be SUPER fun!

If you are wondering which of these you can do and the answer is none, do not worry.. You can still score points with him by doing NOTHING :D :D 

Guys are easy to please sometimes ;)

-- Do not comment on how the friends' or neighbors' guy helped her clean the house, took her shopping etc etc and you have a happy guy!

-- Let him party with his dudes without reminding him to control the booze :P :P 

-- Don't call him when he is gone to Momma to celebrate diwali.. Pamper yourself at the parlor to keep your mind off the temptation or plan a girls' day out :D :D 

Soo easy no? Its simple being the girl sometimes :D :D 

Have a great Diwali people! 

JAB WE MET

Okay I m super duper late to post this. I was kind of trying to get back to reality after the total dream sequence of my life!
S came visiting last month and I was dream walking in that one and half days..
What happens when the love of your life meets you after two and a half year?? Well the emotions, the pent up expression, the happiness, the pinch of separation.. nothing, nothing can be put into words!

                                                    image by me!!

Well we were sitting in this park, when I had this idea of clicking a snap like this..
S was like, "You want to put this on Little things in love right?"
How well you read me S!! At that moment I was thinking of how good it would look and probably I could use it somewhere on my blog and voila ! you say it before I actually assemble my thoughts on it!

Its more than a month since we met, yet it seems like yesterday that you were holding my hand which fits perfectly in yours.. I guess that's what love does to people!

I don't know why I have this great fixation with S ka hand.. I mean I find it soooo cute.. slender fingers and look at those nails! Anddd it is so warm and soft to hold! Okay now too much mush I know!! I just love the feeling when those warm hands move across my face to pull that straying strand of hair back.. :) :)

There was so much going on in my mind to post but I guess I will fail to express my happiness in words!

P.S : I will be back before Diwali with some little things to do on Diwali :) 

Love it when..

31. Love it when you so easily predict what I would do. No one has ever known me as much as you. 

32. That giggle you give when I start with , "You know what??"  or that "Tumhe pata hai kya?" and you say "Nahi na"  

33. I love it that you tell me everything, even if that makes me sad. 

34. Love it when you are all sleepy sleepy and want to go to bed, but still you come online for 10 minutes just to see me . I love that sleeeepy look of yours.. Its sooooo cute!

35.  Love it when you are all busy but you still call and say, "Badi mushkil se time nikala call karne!" 

36. Love it when you indulge me like a small kid.. 

37. Love those sofffft hands !! 

38. Love it when you wear red because I lovvve you in red. You look so hotttt in red! 

39. Just love the future with you !! 

40.. Love it when I love life because of you